OK. Here are a few quick 'n dirty questions. Where exactly does your relationship stand? If you are ready to be brutally honest, ask yourself these five tough questions.

1. Do you look at other relationships and feel you have settled?

* This is the first big question you need to answer. Looking at other relationships and "wondering" or "longing" is not a good sign.

Why are you looking at other relationships?
Are you missing something is your relationship that you see in another one?

2. Do you really like and respect your partner?

* This is crucial; without respect there is no substance.

And what about "liking" your partner? Do you find him interesting, and when she talks, do you want to listen to her?
In order to like and respect anyone, you have to ask yourself. "If I was not involved with this person, and met him on the street, would I like him?"

3. Do you want the same good things for your partner that you want for yourself?

* This is real generosity of spirit.

Do you care as much for your partner's feelings as you do for you own?

4. Do you feel this is where you "belong"?

* "Belonging" is the same as being "home".
* It is being perfectly content where you are.

5. Ask yourself, if you could terminate the relationship without any inconvenience - financial or otherwise - would you?

* We instinctively know that we will never again have the status quo once we terminate this relationship.

Are you brave enough to leave?

嗯。這里有一些快速的且不太道德的問(wèn)題。你們之間的關(guān)系處于何種地步呢？如果你做好準(zhǔn)備，就誠(chéng)實(shí)而無(wú)情地問(wèn)自己這五個(gè)難辦的問(wèn)題吧。

1. 看看其他情侶之間的關(guān)系，你覺(jué)得你們之間已經(jīng)穩(wěn)定下來(lái)了嗎？

* 這是你需要回答的首要問(wèn)題。看看其他情侶之間的關(guān)系，如果你感到“彷徨”或“羨慕”，這都不是好的征兆。
* 你為什么會(huì)在看別人的關(guān)系呢？
* 你在別人的關(guān)系中看到了你們所缺少的東西了嗎？

2. 你真的喜歡并尊重你的伴侶嗎？

* 這一點(diǎn)至關(guān)重要。沒(méi)有尊重，一切就都是虛的。
* 再想想你“喜歡”你的伴侶嗎？你發(fā)現(xiàn)他有趣嗎？當(dāng)她說(shuō)話時(shí)，你喜歡傾聽(tīng)嗎？
* 為了喜歡和尊重某人，你必須問(wèn)你自己：“要是我跟這個(gè)人沒(méi)一點(diǎn)瓜葛，那么要是在街上遇見(jiàn)他，我會(huì)喜歡他嗎？”

3. 自己想要的東西，同樣也想讓你的伴侶得到嗎？

* 這是真正高尚之精神。
* 你在乎著你伴侶的感受，就如同在乎著你自己的感受一樣嗎？

4. 你覺(jué)得這就是你的“歸宿”嗎？

* “歸宿”就是“回家”。
* 你對(duì)你所處的地方完全滿意。

5. 捫心自問(wèn)，如果你可以沒(méi)有一點(diǎn)困難（經(jīng)濟(jì)上的或其他方面的）地結(jié)束這段關(guān)系，你會(huì)去結(jié)束它嗎？

* 我們本能地知道，一旦結(jié)束這段關(guān)系，就將永遠(yuǎn)無(wú)法恢復(fù)了。
* 你有足夠的勇氣離開(kāi)嗎？